The post below was originally published in 2011, and it's been updated each year to reflect where I am in my life and the new...Read More
Resolution: You Are Here
My friend/colleague/inspiration Kathleen Shannon (the designer behind the gorgeous look of Well Fed) recently shared her resolutions for the new year. In her post, she resolved to “…let the way I want to feel, and the person I want to be, dictate my actions.” She’s basing her year around four powerful words, and I encourage you to pop over and visit her; it’s good stuff!
She asked what words are inspiring the rest of us heading into this promising new year, and it got me thinking…
If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know I’ve been
wrestling with embracing a somewhat similar idea for the past few years: this notion of eschewing (eschewing!) hardcore goals and resolutions for an approach based around simply trying to live as the best version of myself.
This year, I want to fine tune that even more.
I spent much of my young adult life always looking ahead. I was, as they say, “goal oriented” and “Type A.” I had plans and schemes and goals, and I would not rest until I’d achieved all of them. Unfortunately, I also would not always enjoy the things I was doing while I was doing them because I was too distracted by the end goal. I fear there are far too many moments I missed or short-changed because I was thinking about the future. I’m not rueful or regretful, but I am grateful that I now understand better how to live in the present moment. (Thank you for the lessons, Frankenneck and kundalini yoga.)
In contrast, I feel like I’ve spent a bit too much of the last two years mourning what I was before my thyroid meltdown. If I’m not conscious and careful about it, I have a tendency to very unfavorably — and unfairly — compare Current Me with At-My-Goal-Weight-CrossFit Me. Current Me is not lazy or unmotivated or a bad person merely because Current Me isn’t as fit as At-My-Goal-Weight-CrossFit Me. Current Me just had some setbacks related to hormonal challenges that were completely out of my control for a while.
So now, although I’m anti New Year’s Resolutions, I am setting an intention for 2013. I’m going to apply some of the principles I’ve learned in yoga, from Brene Brown, and from all of you — and in 2013, I’m going to be present. My mantra: You are here.
Those three words hold so much promise. They’re a declaration of existence and groundedness, now-ness and beginnings.
You are here reminds me that I can be present — that I can rest and revel in this moment — and yet, I can also experience this point in time as the starting line for new adventure and new experiences.
I have a problematic tendency to compare myself — to other people, to (idealized) past or future versions of myself, to what I think I should be. (And we know this is true: comparison is the killer of joy.) But You are here reminds me that I’m me. And that’s all I need to be.
I am here, and I’m going places, too.